trying to organise a weekend away
13 May 2026 16:51Just sent out another email to check budgets, will have to wait to hear back. I'm pretty sure at least two women, and at least one couple will come - their finances are reasonably in order. The others... I'm not sure.
Oh well, if it all collapses, I could drag a couple of friends out maybe. Just do a day trip on the Saturday instead maybe.
Ne 'z in ket da gorolliñ
12 May 2026 23:38The copy of Amy Krouse Rosenthal and Tom Lichtenheld's Duck! Rabbit! (2009) which I sent my godchild for his first solstice was familially referred to for years as Baby's First Wittgenstein. I have no idea what Wittgenstein would have made of this cartoon, but I'm impressed.
I am not sure that I am much more than physically extant at the minute. I am clearing the refrigerator and the countertops. I am absorbing as much sunlight as I sleeplessly can. Yesterday kicked off with a doctor's appointment that was too early in the morning to be as unhelpful as it was and only dropped the bar from there, so this afternoon I made sure to secure a half-dozen donuts from the reliable Lyndell's and eat a jam-filled one as soon as I had finished walking home. The neighborhood smelled like alternating drifts of lilac and mulch. I have had the same headache since the weekend and am hoping it is related to the sexing of the trees. The nine o'clock advent of leafblowers to our block was inhumane.
Three Weeks for Dreamwidth: Meteorology
13 May 2026 00:09Three Weeks for Dreamwidth Part 19: Meteorology
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From the lost drafts folder: On Gender
13 May 2026 13:29(this is dated 2025-10-05; I suspect I had plans to write more or edit it down, but I no longer care)
Today I got to completely baffle another non-binary individual (I'll call them Q). Because I have a simplified explanation for gender that I trot out as a 101 explanation when I'm not in a situation to actually do the proper couple of hours Ally Training spiel.
In this explanation, I get my new ally to think of a graph (in person there is a lot of hand waving around), where across the bottom is how much someone considers them self to be a woman - at the left, 0%, at the right, 100%. And likewise, up the side is male, where at the bottom is 0% and the top 100%. And I said that lots of women might put themselves right at the bottom right. But that say, someone who is a tomboy might still think of themself as 100% woman, but maybe 10% man. And yes, I get that I'm doing some dodgy things about defining femininity here; the person I was talking to is in their late 70s or early 80s, and while they absolutely are an ally, they haven't ever had to think about this.
But my explanation kept being interrupted as Q kept going 'what'? They truly were expecting me to explain using a line, with man on one end and woman on the other. They had a moment of 'are you treating these as independent variables'? And I was yes. yes I am. Because how much 'man' I feel on any given day appears to be completely independent of how much 'woman' I feel on any given day. And yes, actually, I agree that it is more accurately an n-dimensional whatsit (Q is doing a PhD in mathematics, they understand so much more math than I). But this is what works when I only have a little bit of time to explain.
Hard Things
13 May 2026 00:01What are some of the hard things you've done recently? What are some hard things you haven't gotten to yet, but need to do? Is there anything your online friends could do to make your hard things a little easier?
AKC Courtneyyyyyy Culture Festival #221: Nagatomo Ayami
13 May 2026 05:25Ayamin is the dependable older sister type at age 25, always there, always supportive despite her concerns regarding her own capability when it comes to dancing. In 2017, she was moved over to Team K, then under the stewardship of Minegishi Minami before passing to fifteenth generation member, Komiyama Haruka, and, at the last, to Manaka in 2022. As Manaka was taking up the reins in Team K, however, Ayamin was heading towards the last ever iteration of Team 4, then under Kuranoo Narumi. Team 4 was the last team Ayamin was assigned to before the final big rearrangement in 2023 and where we are to-day.
Throughout her time in AKB, Ayamin has been keeping things ticking over, appearing regularly in the theatre and also in plays based on Majisuka Gakuen &c. Because we've just had two entries in a row about sixteenth generation members and their impending graduations, I have some small amount of trepidation in saying this, but when I mentioned above that it was ridiculous that we have not already spoken of Ayamin, it is because I genuinely think she is one of AKB's future stars, a member whom we will soon see as centre in an upcoming single. Having attended university in 2019 and then withdrawn a year later in order to focus more on AKB, there's no doubting Ayamin's commitment to the group, so this really gives me some hope. Last year, her first photobook debuted, this year I expect us to see a lot more of her!
Ayamin is super cute; she has the sort of charm and presence of older idols from previous eras. Her number of fans is definitely only going to increase as we see more of her in the senbatsu!
Jungle Jim's
12 May 2026 22:31So many choices. I need none of it. I want all of it. I got my usual red bean and lotus paste Japanese buns, cheese buns, halva and baklava (yeah 90% of this is either chocolate, baked goods and cheese). I was going to get kimchi but it leaked on my hands so I left it.
I got cookies from holland, speculaasbrokken, the size of my face! British and German chocolates. Stared at the dutch licorice but didn't get it. Also passed on the salmiakki (I think I tried it once and didn't like it), found fried strips of banana from Indonesia (OMG these are amazing). Apparently they had bought a ton of mint flavored violet crumbles because they were selling it for .99 a big ol' bag (bought two, wasn't sure I'd like because I don't need this much candy) Also found Vlasic dill pickle 'cheese' puffs. Ooo.
Found a garlic/asiago cheese bread (it's tasty but not as cheesy as I'd like). But oh man I lost my damn mind in the cheese cave. I got nearly a dozen types (I've opened several) The gorgonzola dolce vero wasn't as bluey as I'd like it. I found a gouda with wild nettles (haven't opened it yet) something called garlic noir (yes tastes like roasted garlic), a fig/honey goat cheese (so smooth it barely has a goat tang) smoked cheddar (always a fave) and two big blocks of gjetost which this is the only place I can find that cheese and they don't always have it. I was so excited.
Rocket is so mad at me, he came inside and said fuck you and went back outside. I haven't seen him since. Snort.
And my entire feed was flooded by this news PCOS has been renamed Polyendocrine metabolic ovarian syndrome.. NOW maybe we can stop going it's just women's problems, lose some weight and take birth control pills and break out of the misogyny and fucking research it. I love that one article said it's undiagnosed 70% of the time something I've been saying to my students for two decades because I have it. I make sure we discuss it and there is NO WAY it's only 5% which is what has been in the literature because there is almost always 2 other students with it in each class. (to be fair my current ob/gyn took it seriously but there isn't treatments because 'hormones make women too hard to study' oh bullshit)
Will it get studied? Probably not in America with RFK and Trump in charge of the medical arena and the moneys for science.
Have fannish 50 (with some recs and stuff)
The questions I got from kitarella, I'm using Buffy for this
Day 2: Favourite episode - So hard to pick one but if I had to chose it's either School Hard or Band Candy, still in the shows early days. One gives us Spike/Drusilla who are still my favorite couple in the entire show and the other gives us Giles being bad.
( all questions under here )
a little thing called belief Hazbin Hotel
A Young Man's Fancy Stargate Atlantis
Regression The Owl House
Barely Coping Torchwood
Sect Leader Jiang's 31 step program to happiness
陈情令 | The Untamed
Camila Mama Week 2026 The Owl House
Finding Dusty Boxes Teen Wolf
No Judgement Hazbin Hotel
Kept Hazbin Hotel
House Cleaning Teen Wolf
Indulgence Hazbin Hotel
Hope. Law & Order: Criminal Intent
The Long Road Home The Amazing Digital Circus
Poisoned Kiss Hazbin Hotel
Ice Time Teen Wolf
Preparing for the Storm Stargate Atlantis
Sleepless, Waiting Torchwood
Local Transport Torchwood
Proper Storage 911
She Opens Her Eyes (She Closes Her Eyes) Hazbin Hotel
A Slow Quickie Hazbin Hotel
Snip, Snip, Snip Hazbin Hotel
Pillows Stargate Atlantis
Unexpected Trouble Teen Wolf
Like and Know. Hazbin Hotel
Friends Indeed Torchwood
Customer Is King Hazbin Hotel
Jaw-Dropping Hazbin Hotel
Aftershocks Stargate Atlantis
Escaping the Memories The Professionals
Untitled PJSK Art by n_ps_7 (SFW)
12 May 2026 23:25Characters/Pairing/Other Subject: WonderlandsxShowtime; Kamishiro Rui, Kusanagi Nene, Ootori Emu, Tenma Tsukasa
Content Notes/Warnings: N/A
Medium: Digital, mixed media
Artist on DW/LJ: N/A
Artist Website/Gallery: n_ps_7 on twitter
Why this piece is awesome: I love drawn art on top of photos! It's such an obvious clash that never fails to excite me. Here, the characters are almost seamlessly blended in. The colors of the photo are sooo nice, too.
Link: https://x.com/n_ps_7/status/1684498799421718528, backup link
Daily Happiness
12 May 2026 20:292. I bought some black sesame honey spread today at work and it's so good! I had it on the last of the Costco croissants and the flavor of the croissant was a little too strong for it, but I think it would be just perfect on toast.
3. Chloe's such a cutie.
dBook review: How to Love Your Daughter
12 May 2026 18:46Author: Hila Blum
Translator: Daniella Zamir
Genre: Fiction, family drama
The other book I finished during my voyage through the southwest was How to Love Your Daughter by Hila Blum, translated from Hebrew by Daniella Zamir. This was book [checks notes] #17 from the “Women in Translation” rec list. It’s about an estranged mother and daughter; as the mother peers through the windows of her adult daughter’s house from across the street, she ponders what went wrong in their formerly loving relationship.
How to Love Your Daughter is a cerebral kind of novel that swims back and forth between Yoella’s present, desperately reaching after the daughter who’s walked out of her life, and Yoella’s recollections of raising Leah.
The twists and turns of their relationship are subtle, almost too subtle. Both characters come off slightly neurotic, fussing about every minor interaction and seeming, to me, to invent problems where none really existed. In the end, it’s not so much a long-deteriorating relationship, which is what I expected, as it is Yoella making one decision that forever alters Leah’s perception of her.
“No one warned me my love could destroy her,” Yoella says about Leah at one point and that’s the core of it. Yoella adores her daughter, almost beyond reason. And it’s that very willingness to put Leah above everyone and everything else that eventually pushes Leah away from her, which is such a perfect tragedy.
I saw another review that said this book was both too long and too short, and I think there’s some truth to that. There are drawn out middle sections which don’t necessarily add much, but the ultimate break and subsequent efforts at reconciliation by Yoella don’t get as much room to breathe as might have benefitted them.
However, the ending is an exquisite microcosm of the tension of the whole novel, leaving you wondering about unreliable narrators and perceptions. Some people felt that Yoella gets off too easy—I would recommend rereading the section where Leah talks to Yoella about her reality/fantasy of Dennis writing her a letter.
I don’t know that either Yoella or Leah comes off as really sympathetic here, but they do come off very human, full of flaws and self-justifications and irrational reactions. And maybe sometimes it’s just human nature to create a tragedy where there didn’t have to be one.
2026 Universal Studios Trip #4 (4/7/26) Universal Studios Japan
12 May 2026 18:00( Day two! I probably should have split this into two... )
Erasing all the streets.
12 May 2026 20:35I also said I wasn't going to watch the video, I was going to read the transcript since I can read faster than they can talk. I also said I wasn't going to go to any local debates, just look up the candidates' positions and track records and vote from there. She asked why I wasn't concerned with interviews or debates, and wanted to know why I didn't want to hear about their passion.
I told her passion was what cost Carter a second term.
From the look on her face, she wasn't at all prepared for me. Not for someone who didn't want passion informing their vote and not for someone to cite Carter. Especially when she said she hadn't known anyone who voiced wanting to vote Reagan in 1980.
I agreed the hostage situation was a factor, and suggested that if he'd been harsher in the debates - "Hey, Reagan, did YOU piss radiation for six months?" - it would've helped, but passion was no small part of it. So I didn't want to expose myself to any of it and would rather judge the candidates by their actions and political alignment.
I don't know what she hoped to find, and I don't think I was it. Nevertheless, I got some entertainment out of it, so I can't say I'm all that upset about having been waylaid this afternoon.
Write Every Day: Day 12
12 May 2026 17:06My check-in: A paragraph, so far.
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