extrapenguin: Northern lights in blue and purple above black horizon. (honor)
[personal profile] extrapenguin
I appear to have actually done it.

The target: a guy who actually respected my opinions and wanted to hear me out (this part is mandatory, I think), probably had Asperger's, and was the son of a person in the anti-gay marriage league (so his opinion was at least partly hereditary).

(I mention the Asperger's because I think that without it, he'd have got the "gays are bad" part that is the unacknowledged backdrop of most anti-gay marriage sentiment. As-is, the papered-on-top excuse objections were his actual objections.)

How I actually did it: in a chat program I, in as noncombative a way as possible, explained my position, and gently informed him that his concerns on gay couples' kids were wrong (research round-up) and also I side-eye the "but the definition of marriage is ~Christian~" position, since no-one complains hugely about or constantly proposes a new term for civil weddings.

Evidence that I did it: he dropped the issue and shortly removed the "marriage = man + woman" page from his likes on FB.

It is a heady feeling, to know that people can change for the better and know that one has caused that oneself. So, uh, there's your daily positivity. I should probably feed myself.

Date: 2017-05-08 17:14 (UTC)
stardreamer: Meez headshot (Default)
From: [personal profile] stardreamer
Good for you! I agree that your first point is key; if the other person isn't willing to listen to your arguments in the first place, it's hopeless.

Date: 2017-05-08 21:15 (UTC)
glinda: best of both worlds (bi pride)
From: [personal profile] glinda
Yay! Well done! Every little positive change helps make the world a better place!

Date: 2017-05-09 11:35 (UTC)
glinda: kaylee with rainbow parasol (kaylee rainbow)
From: [personal profile] glinda
Even better!

Date: 2017-05-08 21:27 (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] dhampyresa
Congrats!

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